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Patrick Califia is a well-known sex-radical activist, writer of cutting-edge erotica, and family therapist. He has been an advice columnist for both The Advocate and Girlfriends magazines.

If you've read his collected advice columns in The Advocate Adviser, or his trenchant personal/political essays in Public Sex, Sex Changes, or Speaking Sex to Power, you'll know that Patrick is well-informed about the vagaries of the human heart, the mysteries of the libido, and how to pursue your desires — whatever they may be — safely, responsibly, and passionately.


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