Love Taps
Patrick Califia, writer, sex radical, and all-round font of erotic wisdom, has agreed to be our oracle and answer questions submitted by you, the visitors to our web site.
If you've read his collected advice columns in The Advocate Adviser, or his trenchant personal/political essays in Public Sex, Sex Changes, or Speaking Sex to Power, you'll know that Patrick is well-informed about the vagaries of the human heart, the mysteries of the libido, and how to pursue your desires — whatever they may be — safely, responsibly, and passionately.
3 February 2012
I moved into a retirement home because health problems were making it too difficult for me to maintain my own home. My doctor recommended massage to treat some pain I was having. A young man...
27 January 2012
I have suffered from depression ever since my first year in college. In the eight years since then, I have tried several different anti-depressants, and none of them have given me enough relief to...
30 December 2011
I went to see a therapist because I was having nightmares and anxiety. Lack of sleep and panicky feelings were interfering with my job, which I used to love. I live in a medium-sized city where...
23 December 2011
My Canadian girlfriend and I are already having squabbles. By the time Thanksgiving rolls around, we will barely be speaking, if previous years are any indication. We have been together three...
16 December 2011
I'm a nineteen year old gay guy. I'm heading to university this fall and have found a great guy who's also going. We live several provinces apart and we're going to be dating once we're in the...
9 December 2011
My ex was abusive. I am seeing a therapist to help sort through what happened, but I don't feel comfortable talking to her about sex. I am pretty sex positive, and I bought myself a vibrator a few...
2 December 2011
I'm in my mid twenties and completely lost my libido about two years ago. I do suffer from disthymia; however, I used to enjoy a healthy sex life even with the disorder. I've switched anti-...
18 November 2011
How does a sex addict make amends? I am working with a sponsor who says I should just look at step number one. But I know if I stay in “the program,” sooner or later I will have to do this. I've...
11 November 2011
I made friends with a really cute guy when he had just moved in to my building and knocked on my door to borrow laundry detergent. We keep discovering more and more things that we have in common...
4 November 2011
My wife put me through law school by working as a stripper. When the adult theater got too sleazy and started demanding high stage fees from the dancers, she went to work in a friend's dungeon as...
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