Love Taps
Patrick Califia, writer, sex radical, and all-round font of erotic wisdom, has agreed to be our oracle and answer questions submitted by you, the visitors to our web site.
If you've read his collected advice columns in The Advocate Adviser, or his trenchant personal/political essays in Public Sex, Sex Changes, or Speaking Sex to Power, you'll know that Patrick is well-informed about the vagaries of the human heart, the mysteries of the libido, and how to pursue your desires — whatever they may be — safely, responsibly, and passionately.
12 August 2011
Can you learn how to do really high-end bondage from a book? I want to go further than the standard handcuffs behind the back or four leather cuffs and spread-eagle 'em on your bed. There's nobody...
5 August 2011
I like to watch girls fighting. Movies like “Kill Bill” are like mainlining for me. But why don't you ever see bar fights between girls? Seems like all the fighting is done by guys who are usually...
29 July 2011
I love bears. But I am skinny. I want to be around bears. I want to be one. I am hairy but not fat. Bears only want other bears. I have a cute face and a boyish body. I am in shape but not muscle...
22 July 2011
I came out rather late in life, after raising two children, and my lover is about ten years younger than I am. I wonder if there is a difference between the generations that is causing me some...
8 July 2011
I went in for an exam after a male sex partner told me he had gonorrhea. My gynecologist did a vaginal swab. When it became clear that this was the only test he was going to do, I explained we had...
1 July 2011
I am into scat. I didn't disclose this to my roommates before I moved in because they never asked, and it also seemed like it was none of their business. I have dates a couples times a week,...
24 June 2011
I am intersexed. Writing that word is a big relief, but I also feel a great deal of anger and shame. I have Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS). As a fetus, I developed testicles, but because my...
17 June 2011
I love to watch women smoke. To me, there's nothing more erotic than a beautiful woman, dressed in a black cocktail dress, stockings, a garter belt, and high heels, sitting across from me and...
10 June 2011
Can a guy really give himself a blowjob? One of my friends claims he saw a picture of this but he's never been able to produce the evidence. I don't believe it. Why would you do such a freaky...
3 June 2011
I want to bring up something I don't think you have discussed in your column. That is the situation of a woman who is involved long-term with a married man. In the beginning I believed him when he...
