It's a valid question, Zoza, but what I find most interesting about it is the fact that since time began, we've been unable to talk about young people without wringing our hands over their depraved sexual habits. As soon as we become teenagers, the most significant thing about us - self-imposed, but also to the adults scrutinizing us (fearful that their own sexual relevance is becoming obsolete?) - is our sexuality. We compulsively analyze and monitor teen sex behaviour, but to what end? If we persist in approaching the topic as though it's predominantly damaging (pregnancy! STIs! Rainbow parties!), what are we truly offering young people as a legacy? And is the sieve through which we filter their behaviour even helpful or positively affecting our general understanding of sexuality?

With the exception of a few resources like www.scarleteen.com, when do you ever hear teen sexuality discussed with respect and pleasure in mind, not in the context of a moral panic? Every generation is horror-struck by the conduct of the one that follows it and yet we react without a proper grasp of why it even matters to us so much. The fact that you are relieved your list is shorter than you imagined says one thing; the fact that we make them at all says so much more.

We learn early that our sexuality is unacceptable and our pleasure nugatory - is it any wonder we begin taking inventory, to affirm our viability and our experience, if only to ourselves? (And to our snooping mothers, according to one of my friends, who said hers reacted to finding her list "as though [she] had slaughtered a small village.")

There is a word frequently attached to young people and fucking these days and that is "oversharing" - so much so that it was the Webster's New World Dictionary 2008 Word of the Year (www.newworldword.com/overshare). While I have to agree that oversharing can at times be excruciating, the expression when used pejoratively is just another way of unproductively critiquing promiscuity, another word that hasn't exactly enjoyed a positive reputation. Oversharing is also often closely aligned with narcissism, yet another term in poor standing.

Clearly, though, we are keen to be perceived as sexual creatures so it's no surprise that people make attempts, often gawky and poorly received, to be self-seeking, experimental and proud. The tacit acknowledgement of this craving is the genius behind something like Facebook, the social networking site and the latest subject of uninterrupted distress, which I used myself to answer your question about whether people still make lover lists. Here is one of several responses:

"No, I don't count anymore. I stopped when a) my list got too long with too many 'that dude from the record shop' type entries and b) when I started sleeping with girls and thought that meant that I'd have to go over the back catalogue of every dick I ever had in my mouth and count them too." So to answer your more fundamental question, yes, young folks are still busy with the perilous, thrilling task of being young folks while we watch on with uneasy envy.

Broadly speaking, sexual statistics are collected for four reasons: to further academic and societal understanding of sexuality, to criminalize sexual behaviour, to catalogue criminal sexual behaviour or to sell pills. To be frank, academics, with so little money allocated towards non-pharmaceutically minded sexual research, have more pressing things to look into than men who prefer going down than sticking it in. Now, if this somehow impacted the sale of a pill, you'd find stats galore, but of course they'd be heavily skewed towards the product's miracle cure.

You've asked a very typical AIN (Am I Normal?) question and if you want a plain answer to that, yes, you are. Though I don't receive a lot of letters about this topic specifically, I do receive ones from men who prefer sniffing stockings over penetration, women who prefer anal over vaginal and on and on. Mercifully, what we are told to like and what we actually like varies in all aspects of our lives.