While it's true that a lot of tops you'll come across online have certain immediate and grueling expectations of subs (though this doesn't necessarily make them insane, just aware of their own needs and wants) I am surprised you haven't met ones who are more moderate and expressive about their hobbies outside the bedroom. Have you tried Fetlife (fetlife.com)? Even joining one of the zillions of groups and starting up a discussion might lead you to some interesting possibilities and there are some very experienced and balanced players on this site. Give that a go. I would suggest that no mater which site you choose, you tone down your attitude about Satanists, Sons of Sam and skat play. In a cyber dating context, openly criticizing peoples' online personas and fetishes just because they don't appeal to you and setting yourself against people as though what you project and enjoy is more valid isn't going to win you any friends. All kinks are harmless when they are negotiated consensually—if yours are more common it doesn't make them more so—shit and let shit in someone's mouth, so to speak.

You might also try dating sites that don't have such a predominant focus on BDSM like Plenty of Fish (plentyoffish.com) where the profile set-up permits you to state all your pastimes in and outside of the bedroom. I know a few people who have had success hooking up with folks who share both their intellectual and intimate interests in this venue. Again though, try to ease up on the "am-I-the-only-not-crazy-person-who-likes-BDSM-out-there?" stance. Stating your wants without critiquing others makes you much more attractive.

This is pre-ejaculate, it sounds like, and while for a lot of men it just kind of blub, blub, blubs out a bit, for some it does shoot a little. It's not pee. In fact, its job in part is to neutralize the acidity in the urethra caused by pee so that the sperm can get through safely. It's basically the Underground Railroad for the sperm and it comes primarily from what are known as the bulbourethral glands. And lubing up your cock and rubbing your head in whatever motion gets you off will very naturally provide a pleasant sensation, regardless of how your pre-ejaculate emerges.

I gotta say, Scott, I think that no matter how you play this people are going to read this woman's actions as being as a result of the situation she's in—same as when a sex worker reveals sexual abuse in her past and it is read as the "reason" she became a sex worker, no if and or buts about it. You are dealing with an unapprised public when it comes to matters of polygamy and polyamory (and these are different relationship models, in case you didn't know. Polygamy is when there is one male and several females while polyamory is more equal opportunity) so you may have to rethink that scene (perhaps he just gets schmucked by a streetcar or something?) if you don't want it to shift focus from the larger message of your film.

Cunnilingus is considered low risk activity, especially if you have no cuts in your mouth and you do have the option of using a dental dam as well. As for urine, the concentration of the virus in this fluid is so low it's not considered a risk. You can make your own choices but no matter what you do, remember that menstrual blood does contain the virus in infectious amounts.