After finally visiting the Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto last month in person (oasisaqualounge.com/blog/), I can officially give it the two bums up. I was with a very mixed group of friends and I feel like we all had a great time in our own ways.
Here are some things to expect:
1. Straight couples pay significantly more per visit than single women, though membership offers make repeat visits more economical. Day passes are 50 bucks per male-female couple versus 80 bucks at night, so if you want to go check it out when it’s a little quiet, you know, do a rehearsal of the equipment and maybe get some of your blocking and choreography down, that would be the time to do it.
2. There are several creatively appointed rooms where you can show off your high-end libidos and, yes, there are other couples eager to do the same (“Birthday cake or watch couple fuck by the stripper pole?” was an option the last time I was there. Both, obviously).
Ask before you gawk, grope or stand too close. If people are making you uncomfortable by not respecting your boundaries, do not be shy about telling them to back off. It’s also important to know that there will be people experiencing the same trepidation as you. Don’t assume that everyone’s an expert. Break the ice by being honest with others about your expectations.
Sometimes a couple straying beyond the hallowed boundaries of conjugal decency get overwhelmed by feelings of guilt, shame and remorse, and this sets off a chain of events leading to their ruin. I think before you embark on an adventure like this, it would help to talk openly about the issue of regret, including the very basic concept of what it is and why we often attach it to situations in which we are inviting pleasure.