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I'm a gay man who wants a long-term relationship. I'm dating somebody who is super-cute, smart, and he seems to be really into me. But his balls are so sensitive that I can't touch them, much less give them a good workout. When I go down on him, I have to be really careful not to brush his balls with the back of my hand. Or he cries out in pain, he loses his erection, and we have to start all over.
I really miss sucking on balls. It used to be one of my favorite kinds of “safe” sex. I used to get a lot of compliments about how good I was at rolling those bad boys around in their sack and putting just the right amount of hurt on them. Do you think he could get used to ballplay if I gently (VERY gently) touched them more often?
I don't recommend it. It sounds like his balls are so sensitive that the lightest and kindest of touches cause him excruciating pain. If you keep touching him in a place that hurts, no matter what your intentions are, he will simply learn to associate your touch with that pain. This is likely to make things worse, not better. He will tense up and might even reject you.
This advice will not hold true if the sensitivity is caused by a skin infection, like a chronic case of jock itch. This is basically a yeast infection on the skin and can be treated by a doctor. Some of the signs to look for are red, itchy skin and a yeasty odor. Clearing up the skin problem might get rid of the testicular sensitivity. Even if there are no symptoms of a yeast infection, he should probably see his doctor and describe this problem just to make sure nothing pathological is going on. Start with his general practitioner, and that doctor can refer him to a specialist if need be.
Odds are, he was simply born with this sensitivity, and not much can be done about it. I've met a handful of other guys who had this issue, and all of them were unhappy about it but unable to find a solution. If any of my readers has managed to find a cure, PLEASE write in so we can share with the rest of the class!
I'm wondering if there aren't some other ways to save this potentially great, long-term relationship. You mention that you really miss the physical sensations of ballplay, but you also miss feeling like this was an area of expertise, a sort of magic trick that you could rely on to delight and amaze and impress your bed partners. I think that is a lot to ask a guy to give up. Is it possible that you need your partner to be more expressive, so you feel more secure in the fact that you do awe and delight him? Is there anything he has wished that a partner would do for him, but he's been afraid to try it? There's no reason why you can't learn more than one Tantric Trick to overload his senses. Then instead of being a one-trick pony, you'd be a sort of Erotic Wizard of Ahhhhhs.