Crabby Clit

Friday, December 21, 2007

Question

I can no longer have an orgasm by clitoral stimulation. Touching it hurts! I am getting off just fine when my partner fucks me, but masturbation or oral sex are no longer pleasurable. I had an operation to remove a cyst on my ovary. Could this cause problems with my clitoris? I don't see how, but this is the only major thing that's changed in my life. My partner really knows how to work my G-spot, and I love penetration, but we are both pretty inventive in bed, and he's bummed out. Me too. Any ideas?

Answer

If you are prone to ovarian cysts, you may have a medical condition that causes your body to have higher than normal levels of testosterone. Your clitoris could be in pain because it is growing. Have your doctor check your hormone levels. I would also get tested for infections that might affect your clitoris as well as your vagina. You can get a case of thrush (yeast overgrowth) under the clitoral hood, and the little man in a boat might be affected by bacteria, Chlamydia, herpes, genital warts, or trichomoniasis. Your partner should use gloves and condoms until you make sure you don't have anything transmissible.

If you are waxing or shaving your pussy, you might want to take a break and see if that helps. Did you get an extra-strong vibrator recently? If so, use it over a layer of fabric instead of directly on your clit. You could be having an allergic reaction to shampoo, soap, or cosmetics. Make sure you are wearing cotton underwear, and wash your clothes in a hypoallergenic detergent. (No bleach, please.) Don't douche with commercial solutions—they are too harsh and can irritate your sensitive vulva.

Another potential culprit is lubricant. Some women develop a sensitivity to one of the many ingredients in lube. Glycerin is a common irritant. Nonoxynol-9 will set just about anybody's parts on fire, as well. Check with your local women's sex shop or website and order an allergy-free lubricant. Oh, and here's a last-minute news flash: I personally can't tolerate oral sex if my partner has brushed his teeth. That minty-fresh toothpaste that makes his mouth feel so fresh and lovely does nothing good at all to my nether regions. Mouthwash too.