Critical care

Friday, July 03, 2009

Question

My relationship with my boyfriend has been going really great. We care a great deal about each other. However, my boyfriend falls into the category of premature ejaculator. I honestly never really had a problem with it, we just had sex a little more than once a night and I am always satisfied with the sex we have.

Recently we've been on the rush all the time (due to my mother being hospitalized) and barely have time for each other, but when we do it's only for a short period of time before we go to sleep and we only have sex once, which means we both aren't satisfied. He's starting to get really upset about it now and feels inadequate and trying to tell him otherwise doesn't help much. We are still very close to each other but I don't want something so stupid to break us apart. What should I do?

JUST FINE

Answer

You've got a recently hospitalized mother on your hands and rather than say, "Baby, I'm really sorry your mom isn't well, that must be so stressful for you," your boyfriend is giving you grief over his dick? Tell him to get off your hole. Seriously, he's lucky he's getting any pussy at all, never mind one that's caring enough to hold his cock through what is no doubt an already traumatic time.

Your sex life is going to be compromised for a while and you and he need to just relax and let that happen while this new phase sorts itself out. If he can't put his penis aside for one moment and support you through this, you've got a real problem on your hands for sure. The lovemaking is undoubtedly a great way to get your mind off a crisis, but if it's only adding to the stress, then you've got to step back or change up how you're doing it. Snuggles, massages and making out should be on the top of the menu right now.