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I'm looking for an instructional book or video on how to give a good prostate massage as a partner of mine really loves them. Would you have any material to recommend?Prostrating for His Prostate
Sure, but as a warning, the world of prostate massage instruction is peppered with lyrically reverent west coast types and you may find their gushing enthusiasm and avuncular casting choices a little unsettling. Though it is helpful, Joseph Kramer's Anal Massage series is one I'd put in this category. For a more contemporary approach that features similarly useful instruction but a more porny cast, have a look at Tristan Taormino's video The Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men.
The Bible of anal sex remains Jack Morin's Anal Pleasure and Health. There's a chapter on anal eroticism that covers prostate massage briefly but it's worth picking up for an all-over knowledge of the area. Also recommended is The Multi Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava.
Regular workshops are a little harder to locate but if you go to the Prostate Massage group on Fetlife, you'll find people interested in the topic and you can pick up some tips from enthusiasts.
An online resource I've found that I really like is a website called the Healthy Prostate (www.thehealthyprostate.com) owned and operated by sex educators Christine Fawley and Charlotte Goodman-Smith. "The goal of our site is to offer a clear and concise video guide for men and their partners to learn prostate massage in the comfort of their own homes," says Fawley. "Some men want to explore prostate massage for pleasure, others have it recommended by their doctors. Our site aims to be a gentle and practical introduction to a painless and pleasurable prostate massage, solo or partnered." The $25 annual fee is certainly worth the comprehensible demonstration videos and the well-researched lists of books, toys and health tips. Definitely check it out.