On-Line Voyeur

Friday, April 14, 2006

Question

What is "sub space"?

Answer

"Sub" is slang for "submissive," the partner in a sadomasochistic encounter who role-plays obedience or being under the control of a dominant partner. The term "sub space" denotes crossing the line between one's everyday life, when one is an autonomous adult, and entering into the spirit of a bottom or submissive role. People who enjoy being sexual submissives stay in sub space for different amounts of time, and for different reasons. Sub space may be demarcated by putting a collar on the bottom—the idea being that when the collar is on, roles are in existence. When it is removed, the top and bottom return to their everyday identities.

Synonyms for "sub space" are "going down" or "going under." There is usually a moment of fear before one goes under. It's kind of like that intense panic you get when you drop acid and realize you are in for a trip, no matter what, that's somewhat beyond your control. Except that when you are bottoming in a BDSM encounter, you have the right to stop the action at any time. Passing through that fear, one then enters a sensation of freedom and joy. There may be relaxation, arousal, timidity, or erotic embarrassment. But in general, these emotions are simpler and more pure and intense than similar feelings outside of a BDSM encounter. I think this is the result of being able to leave major responsibilities behind and engage in an erotic type of adult play.

Because this question is kinda short, and it indicates you may be curious about exploring "sub space," I am also answering the question below this week.