Shoe Fetish, Shoe!

Thursday, October 01, 2009

Question

Dear Sasha,

Can you tell me at what point does an interest/fetish become an obsession? I have a fetish for high heels. I know that's not too unusual but I think I'm a little too much into them. I drive longer ways home just to pass some office towers so I might get a glance of a woman in heels. When I look at porn on the Internet I look at the feet/stocking/heels area because most of the other stuff is kinda boring. I will even just look at high heel shopping web sites instead of porn sites. When most guys look at a woman they look at the ass, tits etc but for me it the shoes and if I am lucky and they are open toed and I can see the feet. I am starting wonder if this is a problem or something I should just enjoy.

HRH

Answer

How do you know what most men like? The Internet is filled to bursting with a wide range of fetishes that don't include tits and asses and it sounds to me like you've got your own all sorted out. You like high heels and you've found some really wonderful (and economical!) ways of enjoying them.

Now, if you want a classic definition of when a sexual interest becomes an unhealthy obsession, it's generally when it interferes with other important aspects of your day-to-day life: if you are missing work or neglecting your relationship, for example, in order to satisfy it. Also, obsessing over whether you're obsessing over it might be one sign. Still, isn't that one of the hallmarks of a preoccupation no matter what we name it? Isn't that just all part of the fun? There's no hard and fast rules when it comes to lust, HRH. I say enjoy your heel interest and feel lucky that you're living in a damn fine era in which to have it.