A Straight Reader and Cock Rings

Thursday, March 24, 2016

Question

Dear Patrick: How do cock rings work? Can they help you to stay hard if you have a problem coming too soon? Where can you get one? Which one should I try?

Answer

Dear Straight Reader: While it’s true that cock rings were popularized by gay men, they are used by men of all sexual orientations, so you don’t have to worry about me making false assumptions about your gender choices when it comes to pursuing a partner. The people who sell these things don’t care about that either. They only want to have a happy customer.

Cock rings should really be called cock-and-ball rings since most types fit at the base of the cock and around the scrotum. This prevents them from falling (or rolling) off. They work by allowing blood to flow into the genitals, but restricting it from leaving. (I know this doesn’t sound logical, but it’s due to some oddities in the specialized circulatory system that make erections possible.) This enlarges the genitals, making the cock semi-rigid.

A cock ring won’t work quite as well as Viagra and its chemical cousins, but it also doesn’t have any of the side-effects. It is like jewelry for the male equipment, creating a handsome effect that many men (and some women) enjoy looking at and handling. If you are having some problems with achieving an erection that is hard enough for intercourse, a cock ring can help. There is no research to prove that one can help men who have trouble coming too soon, but there is some anecdotal evidence that they are useful, at least to some men with this issue.

You can buy cock rings in just about any sex shop, and they are also available on-line, including on this site. For your first one, I suggest you get one that is adjustable. Cock rings made out of hard metal have to be precisely sized. They are also a problem if your cock swells up too much, because they can become difficult to remove without actually cutting off the ring. That’s an embarrassing and potentially painful procedure. So get a ring made out of a band of leather or plastic. I suggest a broad band (about one-fourth to one-half an inch) since it will create compression without bruising your delicate bits. Velcro is a great closing that provides the ability to tighten it as much or as little as you like. Snaps are also a popular choice. Just be careful not to catch your pubic hair!

Before using a cock ring with a partner, I suggest you practice putting one on and wearing it in private. Masturbate to orgasm while you have one on to see if you like the way it makes your cock and balls feel. Remember, you can always wear it for a while and then take it off. You aren’t required to keep it on for the whole length of your sex session. They are a very ancient toy with a great pedigree in enhancing male pleasure, so I hope you enjoy yours!

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