Virgin

Friday, August 31, 2007

Question

I am 23 years old and a virgin. I am increasingly really aroused a lot and am constantly wet even when it's inappropriate. I have a vibrator but can't make myself use a dildo. I've tried before, but it seems like it hurts. Are there dildos that are meant for virgins? I used to have a VERY powerful vibrator but it broke. My new one doesn't have as much power to it and doesn't seem to be helping because I am constantly wet. Any help you could give me to get me to come A LOT would be heaven.

Answer

The solution seems fairly simple if all you need is a better way to masturbate. Get another vibrator, one that's as powerful as your old one. If the dildo you bought in the past hurt when you tried to insert it, get a smaller one. Your hymen might be getting in the way. But if you can insert a tampon, you can find an insertable sex toy that will work without popping your cherry.

But I have another suggestion. Maybe your body is telling you that it's time for you to start having sex with other people. It could be that touching yourself isn't really helping because you need somebody else's touch. I don't know if you are preserving your virginity until marriage or have moral objections to premarital sex. If so, it may be important to start looking for ways to meet your sexual needs without violating your religious or ethical beliefs.

Masturbation is a great way to experience sexual pleasure. It remains a part of our individual eroticism throughout the entire life span. But it's not the whole enchilada. If your spirit and body are longing for connection with another human being, masturbation will only frustrate you, even if you are having very good orgasms.