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Friday, June 24, 2005
QI'm a heterosexual woman who has recently dived into the wonderful world of sex, but I can't seem to get my boyfriend to come when I give him oral sex. He's trying to help me, but I can't seem to go "fast" enough for him. I'm not sure I...
Friday, June 17, 2005
QI am a gay boy who is really curious about experimenting with anal sex. But I am really paranoid that I won't be clean up there. How can I make sure that my boyfriend doesn't end up with a nasty surprise?AnswerWell, if you don't want y...
Friday, June 03, 2005
QI'm an FTM (female-to-male transsexual) who's in a sometimes-sexual relationship with a bisexual girl. We're both about 20. She's never been with an FTM before and has never gone down on a female body. (Although she has on a male body, ...
Friday, May 27, 2005
Love Taps Lost Lesbian
I am a young lesbian who is new to the whole concept of sex with another girl. My girlfriend is even less experienced than I am! We are both somewhat timid when it comes to sex. We both want it, but we just don't know where to start. Wha...
Friday, May 20, 2005
We are a couple in our late 40s who have been together in a long-term relationship for many years now. As we get older, our sex drive still seems to be thriving. But my hard-ons are not as stiff as they once were. I was wondering if a co...
Friday, May 13, 2005
I have masturbated for a good part of my life, and I enjoy it very much. However, I have never had a recognizable orgasm, although I think that I have come close (no pun intended). I was wondering if it is possible to become desensitized...
Friday, May 06, 2005
Love Taps New Boy
I am a 25-year-old boy in my first Daddy/boy relationship. My Daddy is literally old enough to be my dad, which I find really hot. He's been out since before I was born. I can't even explain to you how fabulous the sex is. We are both FT...
Friday, April 29, 2005
Love Taps Sailor's Girl
My husband and I would like to try anal sex on him with me using a strap-on. Any suggestions as to which one is best?AnswerOh, Gawd, girlfriend! Pleeeeze tell me that you will make him wear his uniform while you do him from behind! Does ...
Friday, April 22, 2005
Love Taps Trying to Thaw
I have been a top in all my relationships, enjoying being in charge and developing supersensitivity to other people's secret desires, wounds, and needs for sexual healing. Almost the entire time, I have also been stone. Now I long for so...
Friday, April 15, 2005
Love Taps Plumber
What is the maximum depth for anal penetration? How long of a probe can I use? So far, I have been using different handles and tools I can find around the house.AnswerThe depth of the rectum, the first section of the large intestine, dif...
Friday, April 08, 2005
Love Taps Unsatisfied
I have never had an orgasm. I've used toys, tried many different positions, and been with both males and females who had different levels of experience. Nothing feels really good. Like, imagine what penetration would feel like if there w...
Friday, April 01, 2005
Do most women (if there is such a thing as "most") like the look and feel of a man with a shaved genital area? Or a very trimmed and shaved scrotum? I love the feeling of my wife's fingers and tongue on my testicles, but I'm often worrie...
Friday, March 25, 2005
Love Taps Ready for Love
What are the safe and risky times of the menstrual cycle if you want to have sex, but avoid pregnancy? Send me a quick answer, please!AnswerMonitoring your menstrual cycle and restricting intercourse to the "safe" days of the month is an...
Friday, March 18, 2005
Love Taps No G Spot Here
I like getting penetrated, but how can I persuade my very enthusiastic and well-meaning butch girlfriend that not every woman ejaculates? She has seen those damn videos and thinks it's really cool when those pussies squirt all over the p...
Friday, March 11, 2005
How do I tell — or should I tell — a female sex partner that I was sexually abused as a child? I wish that those experiences did not affect my sexuality as an adult, but they have. I usually have to avoid situations that make me feel tra...
Friday, March 04, 2005
Love Taps In Love
I was really happy when my boyfriend finally allowed me to have a talk with him about his erectile problems. He said he was very happy with our sex life and didn't know why he frequently (more than 50% of the time) failed to get an erect...
Friday, February 25, 2005
Love Taps Sexy Senior
Do you have any advice for us older guys? I've been married for 36 years, and my wife has no complaints, but she's always been sweet that way. I was hoping that my retirement next year would leave a lot more time for sensuous enjoyment o...
Friday, February 18, 2005
Love Taps Novice Mistress
I am about to apply for graduate schools, but I am scared of going into debt. Everybody I know who took out student loans has a horrible time paying them back. I've been told I'm good-looking but tall for a woman. Most of the men I've wa...
Friday, February 11, 2005
Love Taps Curious Reader
Since I read your story, "The Surprise Party," in Macho Sluts, I have had a few questions about what could one put in a given fiction, and about the way we read and write too. I don't know if I am off-topic for this advice column, but th...
Friday, February 04, 2005
Love Taps Dodger
My boyfriend has a habit of trying to stick his finger in the "out hole." This does absolutely nothing for me. I have told him this, and added that I am willing to do whatever else he would like. How do I divert his attention from my ass...
Friday, January 28, 2005
I'm in my first year of college. Since high school, I've been politically aware and left of center. That awareness has included reading a lot of feminist authors and correcting my behavior so that I won't be a sexist asshole. But I am da...
Friday, January 21, 2005
Love Taps On the Edge
I have been having sex for four years and have yet to have an orgasm. I am really sexually frustrated and hoping you can suggest a good first vibrator for me. Hopefully, it will fix my problem!AnswerI'm not sure that a vibrator is the f...
Friday, January 14, 2005
Love Taps Gusher
Is it safe for my girlfriend to swallow my cum? Should I just do it, or ask her before I do it?AnswerAfter polling the heterosexual and bisexual women I know who like to suck cock, there seems to be a majority opinion that nice guys ask ...
Friday, January 07, 2005
Love Taps Running Cold
My boyfriend is away at work all week and when he comes home on the weekends it is as though he wants to make up for a week's worth of sex in two days. I just don't have a sex drive that matches his. If I have an orgasm on Friday I am go...
Friday, December 31, 2004
Love Taps Lonely Student
I'm a 23-year-old black man who is working part-time and going to college full-time. I don't have a steady relationship with a woman and have never had one that lasted more than a year. Do you think I could ever have a long-term relation...
Friday, December 24, 2004
Love Taps Disheveled
QDear Advisor,I am a 49-year-old lesbian in a three-year relationship with a woman who is extremely adept with strap-ons. This was a first for me, and it has been an amazing three years. I've even mastered the art of fellatio, which I fi...
Friday, December 17, 2004
Love Taps Shy Guy
I'm wondering how you introduce the topic of anal sex to your girlfriend. Sometimes when she's sucking my cock, I fantasize that she's going to slip her finger up my ass. But she never does. When I masturbate, I often think of her starin...
Friday, December 10, 2004
Love Taps Female Fan
QDear Sex Advisor,Is there anything I can do to last longer and not be sooooo sensitive?AnswerThat depends on why you're stopping and which part of your anatomy is getting too sensitive to continue. Sex is a form of physical exercise, so...
Friday, December 03, 2004
Love Taps Shy Senior
I am widowed, not young, but am interested in a vibrator or something to satisfy sexual needs. I've not been sexually active for some time. I would appreciate your advice and suggestions.AnswerI think it's great that you are recognizing ...
Friday, November 26, 2004
Love Taps Unsure
My life is in a state of severe self-denial. Just last month, I finally admitted to myself that the evidence adds up. When I look for porn, it rarely (if ever) involves men. I've had numerous, though sporadic, physical affairs with women...
Friday, November 19, 2004
Love Taps Too Tight
My boyfriend and I are starting to experiment with anal sex. It's a first for both of us. I bought a few dildos, trying to work my way up to his large-than-average penis. But any anal penetration still hurts. We are taking it very slow. ...
Friday, November 12, 2004
I am doing a psychology project on the myths and realities of aphrodisiacs. I was just wondering if you could lend your advice on the topic and perhaps point me in the direction of more information.AnswerDespite the fact that sexual plea...
Friday, November 05, 2004
Love Taps Burning
I have vestibulitis, and a man I have been dating recently knew this from the start. We've only tried intercourse four times — and only once was successful for me without any side effects of burning from the vestibulitis. However, he cou...
Friday, October 29, 2004
My husband has a sexual fantasy about seeing me with another woman. This was shocking to me at first and even somewhat hurtful. I wondered why he needed anybody but me. But after four years of marriage in which he has remained my best fr...
Friday, October 22, 2004
Love Taps Lewd Librarian
What is the term for sucking semen out of a vagina? No one seems to know the name for this specific activity.AnswerAccording to Bruce Rodgers' underground reference book, The Queen's Vernacular, now sadly out of print, the word you are s...
Friday, October 15, 2004
Love Taps Adventure Dyke
I'm a lesbian who's in a new relationship. My partner and I both want to try sex with a strap-on, but we are concerned with how to manipulate the dildo to get it in at the right angle. What do we need to know?AnswerThe first practical qu...
Friday, October 08, 2004
Love Taps Abandoned
QDear Advisor,My husband has sex with me very infrequently. I have tried everything, but he thinks I am "nagging" him. We have been married for less than two years and have an eighteen-month-old baby. We had lots of sex before we got mar...
Tuesday, November 30, 1999
After your last article about female ejaculation, I started reading up on this issue. I first squirted over three years ago, and ever since then I have been utterly embarrassed about it. I've never really understood it—why it happens, wh...