13 January 2017 - 4:57pm
Dear Patrick: I like to be tickled! I don’t think this is a very intimidating desire. I’m not asking anybody to hurt me. I just want to be tickled until I lose control and can’t stand it any more. It’s easy to do, or so you would think. But you would not believe the trouble I’ve had persuading a lover to devote a little time to tickle games. Why? Do you understand this? Maybe if you talk a little bit about my fantasy, it will be less intimidating for my girlfriend. I hope to soon be:
23 December 2016 - 9:00am
Dear Patrick: I am getting married in a month. My fiancée has told me she is a virgin. I have had sex with one other woman, but she was not a virgin. All I know about this is that sex is supposed to be very painful for women the first time around. I don’t want to hurt her at all! Is there anything I can do to make that first time special for her? I love her so much, I don’t want her to associate me with anything painful. I don’t understand why nature would make such a big mistake in the design of the human body. Help!
16 December 2016 - 9:00am
Dear Patrick: I transitioned about five years ago. Instead of being an unhappy, androgynous girl, I am now a furry bear cub who has had love affairs with both men and women. But when I am alone, I am finding myself fantasizing about and wanting to experiment with lingerie and makeup. Is this simply an expression of the fact that I am never satisfied and always changing, or did I make a mistake when I decided to change the initial on my driver’s license?
14 December 2016 - 1:56pm
Dear Patrick: I have known for a long time that my husband would like to go to a swing club with me. His 30th birthday is coming up, and after giving it a lot of thought, I have decided I want to make this his special birthday surprise. But I have no idea what to expect. Can you give me a clue so I don’t make an idiot out of myself? For example, he is not at all interested in having other men approach him for sex.
2 December 2016 - 4:46pm
Dear Patrick: My 25-year-old partner has requested a spanking. I was never spanked as a child (the idea is repugnant to me), so I have no idea how to go about spanking an adult. I am not unwilling, just unsure of how to proceed. She says I make her feel very naughty when she wants sex, and getting a little spanking would help her to get in the mood more often. I am all about having more sexy time together!
22 November 2016 - 5:44pm
Welcome to our collaboration with the Leveller: their newest column focusing on sexual health and pleasure. We’ve teamed up and are providing you, our valued readership, with a forum to ask questions related to those quirks, queries, and curiosities you’ve always harboured and didn’t know whom to ask. Well, now is your chance! Please submit your questions to email@example.com.
Q: A lot of public rhetoric appears to demonize female sexuality. Growing up, I would get rather embarrassed when I masturbated and, as an adult, seem to have internalized a lot of that embarrassment.... more
28 October 2016 - 9:00am
Dear Patrick: I recently ran into a clip of another guy pumping his cock. It just fascinated me, but I was also worried about damage. How long can you do something like that without hurting your cock? Also, in the case of someone who was born without a natural penis, would pumping be of any help in passing so that person would not have to talk about being transgender?
27 October 2016 - 1:24pm
So you’re on the prowl for a delicious Dominant or a sexy submissive. Maybe you’re receiving messages from submissives or Dominants looking for someone just like you. So…who is this ‘you’? And how do you know this person will be a good fit for your fantasies? Asking sounds easy, right? Here’s how that sometimes goes...
21 October 2016 - 11:35am
As a cis-gay man, safer sexual practices are very important to me. Unfortunately, most organizations around Ottawa think that condoms are the only freebies worth distributing. As such, I often have to resort to buying lube. Could you elaborate on the importance of lube and what each kind is for?-Chafing in Chinatown
21 October 2016 - 9:00am
Dear Patrick: I am in a good relationship with a woman of transgender experience (as she puts it). We have been scrimping and saving for years now to pay for her sex-change surgery. It has taken a lot of research to find a doctor that we feel will give her the complete female genitals she wants—not just a vagina, but also a clitoris and labia.
The problem is that as the surgery date gets closer, I am getting nervous. We have been together for more than four years, and I have no problem with our intimacy as it exists now. I very much enjoy anal sex with my girlfriend, and I don’t have any... more