Sex Ed

Dear VE,

‘Twas the day after Christmas and all through my mind, 
thoughts were a flurry, I was sure in a bind. 
I’d spent the day with some friends, we all opened gifts – 
was I sure quite surprised, my reaction was swift!
Around my living room my mates and I sat, 
each gift on full view and my next was begat.

In a lovely blue box, bedecked with a bow,
lay a massive twelve-incher, my goodness! A dildo!

Dear VE,

I’ve been with my partner for almost a year and he really enjoys the sex we have. I, on the other hand, can never manage to get off when we’re having intercourse. I love everything else about my partner… except when we have sex. 

Welcome to our collaboration with the Leveller: their newest column focussing on sexual health and pleasure. We’ve teamed up and are providing you, our valued readership, with a forum to ask questions related to those quirks, queries, and curiosities you’ve always harboured and didn’t...

Dear VE,

Recently, my partner’s libido seems to have taken a nosedive and, while we enjoy being around each other, we don’t have sex as frequently as we used to. What can we do to ensure that we are both happy in our relationship?

Dear VE,

Normally I love oral sex, both receiving and giving, but my guy just can’t seem to get it right. Given his tricky social situation, I don’t want to critique him too much lest he give up completely. What advice can you give someone who desires mutual oral pleasure but doesn’t quite know how to breach the topic of improvement?

-Orally Frustrated in Orleans

Q: A lot of public rhetoric appears to demonize female sexuality. Growing up, I would get rather embarrassed when I masturbated and, as an adult, seem to have internalized a lot of that embarrassment. Would you discuss the health and emotional benefits of female masturbation?

Q: Dear Venus, as a cis-gay man, safer sexual practices are very important to me. Unfortunately, most organizations around Ottawa think that condoms are the only freebies worth distributing. As such, I often have to resort to buying lube. Could you elaborate on the importance of lube and what each kind is for?