Sex Ed

Sex ed

Since 1998, we've been committed to making sex education and products accessible and fun. We think our customers deserve quality products and information and that sex should be dirty in a good way, not a shameful one. We believe that one of the best tools you can have to enjoy a healthy and erotic sex life is knowledge. In this section of the site, you'll find lots of information and opinions about sex, sexuality, gender, and more.

Workshops

We offer many workshops through our Ottawa and Halifax locations, as well out as in the community.

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Advice

Check out our sex and relationship advice column written by the amazing Patrick Califia.

 

Blogs

A bunch of smart and sexy folks regularly blog about sex, relationships, culture, and more here.

 

Articles & Pamphlets

We have written a bunch of articles & pamphlets about everything from kegels to BDSM.

 

Recent blog posts

Dear Patrick: I am dating this really cute androgynous girl-type person, and we have a lot in common. We LOVE the same music, we have gone dancing together and had so much fun! Last time we went out I told her, “I could really fall for you,” and I tried to kiss her, but she stopped me and said, “There is something you need to know.” Then she told me that she has Asperger’s, and that sex was not very important to her. She said in the past this has meant she cannot be in a romantic relationship. But then she said that she has strong feelings about me and does not want to lose me. We both started crying, and I went home in a cab, and now I don’t know how I feel. Is this a disease or a mental illness or what? And how can anything stand in the way of equality-based, queer love? Not to mention the volcano-erupting, red-hot power of woman-to-woman lust!

—Neo-Gothic Punk Romantic Chick

Dear Patrick: I am about to get surgery for prostate cancer. Depending on how the surgery goes, I may be getting radiation treatments or hormone therapy or both. My cancer is aggressive, so all of this will be happening very quickly. My family is being supportive. All my children have arrived to help me and my wife to deal with this. But of course they are worried, and I am not sure how to be reassuring when the truth is, this disease could shorten my life.

I have not had a lot of privacy to discuss certain things with my wife, and I need more information before I can do so. I feel that my doctor is not being honest with me about what will happen to my sexual functioning as a result of this surgery and the other treatments. He actually commented that sex stops being important when you get older. I don’t know what his marriage is like, but my wife and I enjoy a really good sex life, and neither one of us will be very happy if that stops.

Can you give me the truth? I will get the treatment no matter what, but I need to prepare for life after cancer. I can’t do that if I am being kept at arm’s length with euphemisms and half-truths.

-On the Block

Dear Patrick: Is it okay for a dominate to demand that their submissive urinate on cue? My Master really wants me to let it go into His cupped hands. But I am very tinkle-shy and cannot produce. Then He is disappointed and I get punished. Is this fair? I have never had a lover demand this before. I am having trouble seeing this as a submissive act. Urinating on any part of my dominate’s body seems disrespectful to me.

-Lifestyle Submissive

Dear Patrick: I am a teenage guy who has epilepsy. Is it okay for me to have sex? I am really worried that it might make me have a seizure. I am still living at home with my parents, and it’s usually my mom who takes care of me if I have one. I take the medication like I am supposed to even though I don’t like how it makes me feel. Someday I’d like to be able to live independently, partly because want to have enough privacy to be able to bring somebody home! Right now, when my girlfriend visits, it’s “keep your bedroom door open” rules. I’m 19, for heaven’s sake!

-Shaky

Dear Patrick: Due to an accident in childhood, my penis bends at a sharp angle about halfway up the shaft. I am in my early 20s and still have not experienced intercourse. Everybody else seems to like it, so I would like to see what all the hype is about, LOL. But I am afraid of being ridiculed if I take my pants off. I’m also concerned about whether my erection would hurt my partner. To be honest, I have never gone to a doctor about this. It is a very personal and embarrassing thing to discuss with a stranger. Can you give me any pointers that might allow me to have a normal sex life? (I realize “normal” is a problematic word, but I think you know what I mean?)

—Finally Facing It