Since 1998, we've been committed to making sex education and products accessible and fun. We think our customers deserve quality products and information and that sex should be dirty in a good way, not a shameful one. We believe that one of the best tools you can have to enjoy a healthy and erotic sex life is knowledge. In this section of the site, you'll find lots of information and opinions about sex, sexuality, gender, and more.
We offer many workshops through our Ottawa and Halifax locations, as well out as in the community.
Check out our sex and relationship advice column written by the amazing Patrick Califia.
A bunch of smart and sexy folks regularly blog about sex, relationships, culture, and more here.
Articles & Pamphlets
We have written a bunch of articles & pamphlets about everything from kegels to BDSM.
Recent blog posts
Dear Patrick: Is it okay for a dominate to demand that their submissive urinate on cue? My Master really wants me to let it go into His cupped hands. But I am very tinkle-shy and cannot produce. Then He is disappointed and I get punished. Is this fair? I have never had a lover demand this before. I am having trouble seeing this as a submissive act. Urinating on any part of my dominate’s body seems disrespectful to me.
Dear Patrick: I am a teenage guy who has epilepsy. Is it okay for me to have sex? I am really worried that it might make me have a seizure. I am still living at home with my parents, and it’s usually my mom who takes care of me if I have one. I take the medication like I am supposed to even though I don’t like how it makes me feel. Someday I’d like to be able to live independently, partly because want to have enough privacy to be able to bring somebody home! Right now, when my girlfriend visits, it’s “keep your bedroom door open” rules. I’m 19, for heaven’s sake!
Dear Patrick: Due to an accident in childhood, my penis bends at a sharp angle about halfway up the shaft. I am in my early 20s and still have not experienced intercourse. Everybody else seems to like it, so I would like to see what all the hype is about, LOL. But I am afraid of being ridiculed if I take my pants off. I’m also concerned about whether my erection would hurt my partner. To be honest, I have never gone to a doctor about this. It is a very personal and embarrassing thing to discuss with a stranger. Can you give me any pointers that might allow me to have a normal sex life? (I realize “normal” is a problematic word, but I think you know what I mean?)
—Finally Facing It
Dear Patrick: What is the story with hepatitis vaccinations? If you are a sexually active man, should you be getting one?
—Straight Not Narrow
Dear Straight Not Narrow: The simple answer is “probably yes,” but this question brings up the whole topic of a disease that is sometimes sexually-transmitted and sometimes caught via other routes of transmission. You may not want to read everything that follows, but I am guessing some readers will be curious about the complex reality of these viruses.
Dear Patrick: My doctor says I am going through menopause. In the past, I enjoyed vaginal fisting a great deal. I never had any trouble safely taking a gentle partner’s well-lubricated hand. But now, every time I try to go there, I bleed. Not a lot, but enough to be visible. My girlfriend is freaked out by this and says we should stop fisting. Menopause is making me have a lot of emotional ups and downs, not to mention the hot flashes and night sweats. If I have to ALSO give up my favorite kind of sex, I think I will get very depressed!
—Big Bottom Dyke